Not all marriages have a happy ever after, but not all divorces should be bitter or more difficult than they’re supposed to be. The key is to be prepared.
Many people find themselves in a rut when they face the reality of divorce; questions haunt them and they feel they have no choice but to be defensive and combative. This stance, however, has the potential to cause more problems and feelings of regret long after the divorce has been granted.
Should you find yourself in a position where your marriage is no longer working, divorce is an option you should take only after a long preparation. Here are a few ideas to help you become ready.
Don’t Isolate Yourself
This is a trying time. For most people, divorce is the most emotionally draining experience of their lifetime. You need loved ones and friends around you. Avoid whining, though; stick to facts. They’re there to support you. If you keep whining and making them think of you as a victim, you’re not helping anybody. The point is to be stronger because you have a strong support group.
Find a Good Lawyer
You need a good Los Angeles family law attorney to protect your rights and to represent your interests. If you don’t have one already, ask family or friends who have gone through a divorce if they can recommend their lawyer. This is the easiest and perhaps the best way to get a lawyer. You may also go online and do a search. Read the testimonials, but use your common sense to figure out whether they are for real.
Avoid confrontations with your spouse if you’ve already made the decision to file for a divorce. Your lawyer will know best as to what you’re supposed to do; whether you should stay at home or move out as soon as the divorce is filed. Your lawyer will also advise you on how best to keep your assets, bank accounts, and personal belongings safe.
Divorce isn’t a happy event, but it shouldn’t be too complicated or emotionally taxing. The more prepared and knowledgeable you are about it, the better off you’ll be.